I don’t see any reason to put off announcing it any longer, so without further ado, this is the “secret” project I was working on. Check out some of the articles:
- What is Demisexuality?
- Could I Be Demisexual?
- Am I Demisexual If…
- Coming Out As Demisexual
- And more!
Share it, link to it, use it! Consider this a soft launch, and please provide feedback if you have it.* I want to do a bigger launch for Asexual Awareness Week.
* Seriously, I would really appreciate ideas for articles, links and other ways to improve the site.
Remember to checkout the gofundme campaign here!
24 hours of poetry by poets of color! yes, please. keep checking the poetsforferguson page for updates on the livestream (the link will change every three hours)
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Good big media coverage~ Really nice representation of a mom-kid relationship dealing with things. Little eh bits but yeah sweet.
byebyebatbrains said: a list of woc and qtpoc bands would be amazing - are there any lists out there already?
Not that I know of! However, I’m gonna start one, right here, right now. I’m sure I’ll miss a few but I’m inviting everyone here to add bands they know. Below are some currently active punk/hardcore/indie/alt bands that are fronted by, or in which half the band is made up of, women of color and/or LGBTQ people of color:
Try The Pie
The Younger Lovers
Permanent Ruin - soundcloud / tumblr
The Mighty Paradocs - facebook // myspace
White Noise Supremacists
Omega Sirius Moon
The Ch’izhii’s « does anyone have any music links?
Kera and the Lesbians
Fatty Cakes and the Puff Pastries
Destruye Y Huye
Lozen ««< ????
Obama Youth - facebook
Rayos X - last.fm
Tuberculosis - last.fm
Bascom (w folks from sourpatch)
Ephemera «< ????
Bedrooms «< is this riiite??
Blood Horses BATTY
Alyssa of See-Through Girls
Laura of Heavy Bangs
1000 Lights ««???
This Or That
Punk Funk Mob
Wizard Apprentice (formerly fat transfer) (Tumblr) (Soundcloud)
Oxygen Facial FKA Melting Wreck
Beast Nest - Soundcloud / Tumblr
Sangre de Abajo
Centre «< ???
Fanciulla Gentile - Soundcloud / Tumblr
Kai from Self Defense Family (and Bloomer!) ««???
Horregias - soundcloud // tumblr
The Golfas - soundcloud // youtube
The Breathing Light - tumblr // facebook
TV Tramps - facebook
Bat Vomit - Scum Bastard (Youtube)
Dead Rez Reflex
Baby Shampoo «« ????
Its Morning Somewhere Helms Alee
JD’s Revenge «< ??????
Criaturas - bandcamp // soundcloud
Big Joanie - bandcamp // soundcloud
Bushoong « ??
Moor Mother Goddess - soundcloud // bandcamp
Atomic Tan Lines
Bike Crash Ziyoou Vachi (Queen Bee) - youtube ” KUCHISAKE ONNA / 女王蜂 - 口裂け女”
Lior from Gay Panic
Flagitious Idiosyncrasy in The Dilapidation - youtube video
Girl in a Coma
Langton Drive - facebook / bandcamp
Virgin Gun Club
Learn to listen. This is especially difficult for members of dominant groups. If someone confronts you with your own behavior that supports privilege, step off the path of least resistance that encourages you to defend and deny. Don’t tell them they’re too sensitive or need a better sense of humor, and don’t try to explain away what you did as something else than what they’re telling you it was. Don’t say you didn’t mean it or that you were only kidding. Don’t tell them what a champion of justice you are or how hurt you feel because of what they’re telling you. Don’t make jokes or try to be cute or charming, since only privilege can lead someone to believe these are acceptable responses to something as serious as privilege and oppression. Listen to what’s being said. Take it seriously. Assume for the time being that it’s true, because given the power of paths of least resistance, it probably is. And then take responsibility to do something about it.
Researchers want to call this a problem of self-perception, but I have a different theory. It could be, perhaps, that queer girl culture doesn’t suffer the incessant, unreasonable pressure of the male gaze in the same way that straight girl culture does. After all, if you don’t have to concern yourself with attracting men as romantic partners, it’s considerable more reasonable to not give a fuck about their photoshopped-magazine-and-mainstream-pornography-fueled beauty standards, and you might be less likely to internalize that garbage. A dig through some psychology journals show that I’m not making this up. One study showed that lesbians tended to rate the attractiveness of bigger women higher than straight women did. A later study showed that women who felt a strong connection to the lesbian community scored better in personal body image and had fewer indications of depression.
So, we’ve got an NIH study about fat lesbians, a problematic cultural fixation on weight and weight-loss, and a rejection of heterosexual beauty standard by queer ladies. What’s the takeaway here? It’s that we should be concerned when science and medicine make such considerable efforts to pathologize aspects of queer culture that conflict with mainstream straight culture, especially when those aspects of straight culture are hideously broken, like the fat-hate and weight obsession. The fact of the matter is, the study from Brigham and Women’s operates on a unpleasant, and perhaps unfounded, base assumption — that there must be something wrong with queer women because they tend to be larger than straight women. Given the lengthy history of the medical establishments need to assign diagnoses to members of the LGBT community for violating cisgender and heterosexual cultural norms, I think we ought to take a critical eye to research like this, especially when it’s founded on as something as inaccurate and useless as BMI. Loving each other at all shapes and sizes is perhaps one of the best things about queer lady culture. Let’s not let some shaky science wreck that up.
Also, we (the science/ public health communities) have known for a long time that lesbians have a larger average weight than hetero women. So any research or publication trying to make a big deal out of that “discovery” right now is being dishonest. They just want to continue to train you to fat shame…and use that fat shame to legitimize your lesphobia, just as the above quote describes.
asexual representation is important